Making or Thinking of a Move

December 13, 2018

 

Pull up your yoga pants. You’re about to relocate. I’ve recently made some life changes. And as they come with all the excitement and enthusiasm, they also come with work. For example, relocating from one house to an apartment comes with cleaning both spaces. Numerous times! Additionally, there are mental obstacles or better questions and concerns that regard the move.

 

I have seriously moved more than 10 times in my life. If not more. And each time is different. There are things that I leave behind. Things that later, in retrospect, I could have used differently. Opportunities that slipped through my fingers. While the ones taken remain in my memory for good. Some are excellent, others are the kind that makes you hide behind your two palms and take the experience as a life-lecture.

Leaving something that you know and can possibly call your comfort zone is not easy. It comes with a rainbow of emotions. With anything you feel, refrain yourself from feeling fear. It is the one feeling that can eat you alive. Any other is fair game.

If you’re about to relocate, you probably know why you’re going. Have expectations? I would say, don’t, if that’s an option. Stay open-minded of what’s to come. But having a clear vision of why will help you settle and act more confidently from here on out.

Go through your belongings. Depending on the mode of transport and shipping options, decide what you can and can’t live without. How are things going to be where you’re going in comparison to where you are now?

That said, I would also refrain from comparing. I’m sure each place has its pros and cons. Just look at the destination from an observer’s standpoint, rather than someone who’s going to live there. That will help you objectively decide on what’s a necessity and what’s extra luxury.

Then set the date. And, when you go, don’t look back. I say that from first-hand experience. I went to study abroad—on the other side of the world—and I’ll never forget the feeling of the unknown that lasted for about 10 minutes when the plane landed at my destination. The experience had no expiration date. But, once I graduated, the decision to relocate back was made. With teary eyes, but it felt like I was closing one book and opening the other. Their genres were different. Some characters changed. The ones that were meant to stay, stayed. And I flew in between the two worlds like a grasshopper from one grass leaf to another.

Sorry, this article seems to be full of don’ts. Sometimes, being aware of things that we rather not do helps us focus more energy on those that we should do. I hope you’ve enjoyed it and whether you’re moving across the world, the country, or next door, these will help you make the transition easier.

Relocating, in most senses, presents you with a clean slate—but not in all cases. It will definitely give you spaces to grow. You’ll learn new skills, acquire new friendships, learn to navigate through a different city, … and, at first, you’ll most probably go through it alone. This will give you the opportunity to really get to know who you are. In the process, you can refine your goals, and it will definitely make you stronger. You’ll grow to appreciate the quiet time. If nothing else, it will leave you with a life-valuable experience.

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